Designing a Better You
Wellness Through My Lens: A Personal Perspective on Growth & Balance
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Interior Design ID was created to offer faith-led, holistic support. I recognize that wellness is deeply personal, and the reflections shared here are rooted in my own journey and spiritual growth. They are not instruction, but honest offerings from lived experience.
New posts will be added biweekly, beginning with a foundational look at wellness through my lens. I hope to show that healing is not linear. It is a continuous process. Each post includes a personal reflection, guided journaling prompts, simple wellness tools like mindfulness and free-writing, and a few scriptures that have grounded me that month.
This blog is a space to reflect, reconnect, and remember that we are never alone in our process. For those looking for more personalized support, a free coaching consultation is always available.
"Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."
Philippians 1:6 (NIV)
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The Global Wellness Institute defines wellness as the active pursuit of activities, choices and lifestyles that lead to a state of holistic health.
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Wellness, for me, is not just about self-care. It is about healing from the inside out. It is about reclaiming wholeness, honoring who I am, and learning how to show up fully and freely in life. As a Black woman, I’ve often felt the pressure to stay strong while having little room to rest. I’ve come to understand that real wellness isn’t a luxury. It’s an essential part of how I care for myself, protect my peace, and grow into the person I believe I’m called to be.
Over time, I’ve come to see wellness as both deeply personal and quietly communal. It lives in how I care for my body, how I process emotions, how I stay connected to my faith, and how I engage in relationships that feel honest and supportive. It’s been a process of becoming, not through striving, but through learning how to live in alignment with what’s true, grounding, and life-giving.
Interior Design ID was created from that understanding. It began with my own journey, but it has grown into something bigger—a space grounded in faith and purpose, shaped by healing and vision. It exists for those navigating transition, seeking restoration, or simply trying to reconnect with themselves in a more intentional way. Through coaching, reflection, and community-rooted care, this work creates room to explore what it means to live well and grow forward, one step at a time.
I’ve learned that wellness will never look the same for everyone. And maybe that’s the point. There’s no single way to be whole. But I believe in making space—for breath, for reflection, for becoming. I believe in creating lives that feel aligned, inside and out.
I don’t believe healing is something we have to earn. I trust that we are already worthy of wellness. Already equipped for wholeness. Already becoming who God has created us to be.
"Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well."3 John 1:2 (NIV)
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“How are you?” It’s a question I’ve heard more times than I can count, but for a long time, I answered it without thinking. "I’m fine." "I’m okay." As a Black woman, I’ve often carried the unspoken expectation to stay strong, to keep going, to hold it all together. But real wellness has taught me to slow down and ask myself something deeper. How am I really doing?
I used to think strength meant handling everything on my own. Over time, I’ve come to understand that strength can also mean slowing down, being honest about what I feel, and choosing healing over hiding. Wholeness doesn’t come from pushing through. It comes from giving myself permission to be human, to feel, and to rest.
That’s what led me to create this space. A space to pause. To reflect. To check in. A space where asking that simple question, How am I, really, becomes an invitation to show up with honesty and care. For me, wellness has become deeply tied to faith, self-reflection, and the ongoing work of tending to my body, mind, and spirit with intention.
The more I walk this path, the more I recognize that wellness isn’t just about the individual. It’s about what happens when we care for ourselves in ways that make room for others to do the same. When one person chooses healing, it opens up possibility for collective restoration. That kind of care doesn’t just stay inside. It expands outward. It touches our families, our communities, and future generations.
This journey continues to teach me that well-being is not something we have to earn. It is something we are worthy of living into. And I believe in holding space for that, gently, intentionally, and together.
"Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting."
Psalm 139:23–24 (NIV)
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Through my own journey, I’ve come to see that social wellness is more than casual conversation. It is about real connection, honest support, and finding spaces where I feel seen, safe, and understood.
As a Black woman, I’ve often carried the weight of navigating relationships shaped by microaggressions, systemic barriers, and unspoken expectations. These experiences have made it hard at times to feel fully myself—in communities, workplaces, and even in personal spaces that should have felt like home.
I’ve had seasons where I struggled to find places that felt safe. Environments where I didn’t have to shrink, explain, or perform. But over time, I’ve learned that authentic connection starts with being honest about what I need and who I am. That honesty has become a foundation for building meaningful, life-giving relationships.
For me, social wellness has meant learning to choose relationships that support my peace, challenge me with care, and align with what I truly value. It has looked like seeking out spaces that feel affirming, setting boundaries that protect my heart, and showing up with intention rather than obligation.
As I continue to grow, I’ve realized that social wellness allows me to move beyond surface-level interaction and toward deeper belonging. It has created room for me to thrive—and in doing so, it has opened up space for others to thrive too.
I don’t believe we’re meant to walk through life alone. I’ve seen how community can become a place of healing, encouragement, and restoration when built on truth, care, and shared understanding.
"Carry one another’s burdens; in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ."
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How are the relationships in my life—personal, professional, and social—impacting my well-being? Are they nurturing, draining, or somewhere in between?
Do these connections reflect my values and support the life I’m trying to build?
Where am I experiencing barriers to connection? Are there relationships or environments where I need more clarity, support, or intentional change?
What actions can I take to deepen my social wellness? How can I build relationships that honor my growth, authenticity, and peace?
How can I show up more intentionally in my relationships while still protecting my boundaries and well-being?
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Through my own journey, I’ve come to understand physical wellness as more than just caring for my body. It has become a way of honoring the vessel I’ve been given. For me, it is not just about movement or nutrition, but about how I nourish, restore, and show up for myself each day with intention and gratitude. When I approach my physical health with reverence, I feel more rooted, more capable, and more aligned with the life I am building.
As a Black woman, I’ve faced unique challenges on the path to wellness. Systemic inequities, cultural stigmas, and a lack of affirming care have shaped how I’ve moved through health spaces and the ways I’ve had to advocate for myself. These barriers have been real, and they’ve pushed me to deepen both my awareness and my courage.
Over time, I’ve learned that advocacy is a form of wellness too. Speaking up in medical settings, asking questions, and standing firm in what I need has been just as important as any self-care practice. Each time I choose to advocate for myself, I also imagine that I’m clearing space for someone else to feel safe doing the same.
I’ve also had to let go of the pressure to meet external expectations around health. I’ve learned to define wellness on my own terms. Sometimes that looks like movement. Other times, it looks like rest. Either way, every intentional act of care—whether through food, stillness, boundaries, or joy—becomes a quiet affirmation of self-respect.
Physical wellness has become less about chasing an ideal and more about honoring what my body truly needs in each season. That journey hasn’t always been easy, but it has been freeing. I continue to return to the truth that I am fearfully and wonderfully made, and that how I care for my body is both deeply spiritual and deeply personal.
"Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own."
1 Corinthians 6:19 (NIV) -
How am I listening to my body, and am I truly honoring it with the care, rest, and attention it needs right now?
What is my body communicating about my current physical state, and how can I respond with more intention, compassion, and awareness?
What habits support my well-being and help me feel strong and grounded? How can I nurture my body through movement, nourishment, rest, and mindful care?
What barriers or challenges are affecting my physical wellness? Where might I need more knowledge, support, or access to feel more empowered in my health?
How can I advocate more confidently for my body and well-being in healthcare spaces? In what ways can I use my voice not only for myself but also to uplift others who are navigating similar paths?
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Emotional wellness, for me, is not a destination but a lifelong journey of reflection, growth, and intentional care. It’s about how I respond to life’s challenges and how I create space to feel, process, and reconnect with myself. I’ve noticed that when I reduce distractions like constant scrolling and lean into grounding practices—journaling, prayer, mindfulness, and learning—I begin to hear myself more clearly and move through life with more presence and peace.
One of the most powerful lessons I’ve learned is the value of safe spaces. Whether in therapy, empowerment groups, or trusted community, these spaces have helped me unlearn silence, speak more freely, and begin to heal. As a Black woman, I’ve often held emotional weight without having the space to release it. But I’ve seen how healing becomes possible when I’m surrounded by people who understand what it means to carry so much and still choose softness, truth, and connection.
There’s still so much stigma around emotional health, but I’ve come to believe that understanding my feelings, my triggers, and my healing is essential. Struggling has never made me weak. And silence has never made me stronger. I’ve learned that I was never meant to carry everything alone. For me, emotional wellness includes self-awareness, trusted support, and the courage to speak up when something needs to change.
I’ve also come to see emotional wellness as a form of empowerment. In spaces where my emotions have been overlooked or misunderstood, speaking up has become an act of resistance. It’s a reminder that I am worthy of care, of tenderness, and of being heard. And when I choose to advocate for myself, I also hope I’m opening the door for others to do the same.
Most of all, I’ve learned that emotional wellness begins within. I can’t show up for anyone else if I’m constantly ignoring what I need. The more I tend to my emotional health, the stronger and more rooted I become—for myself and for the communities I care about.
This journey continues to teach me that healing takes time. That tenderness is strength. And that emotional wellness is not something I have to earn, but something I get to choose, one honest step at a time.
"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
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How am I really feeling today, beneath the surface? What emotions have I been carrying that I haven’t fully acknowledged or made space for?
In what ways do I tend to suppress, avoid, or dismiss my emotions? How can I begin to respond to them with more grace, honesty, and care?
What practices or routines help me regulate my emotions and return to a grounded place? How can I create more space in my life for emotional processing and reflection?
Where am I being called to release emotional burdens or beliefs that no longer serve me? What would it look like to feel emotionally safe, supported, and seen?
How does my relationship with God, myself, and others shape the way I understand and express my emotions? Where do I need more support or softness in my emotional world?
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Spiritual wellness, for me, is more than ritual. It is rooted in relationship. As I continue walking in faith, I’ve come to see spiritual well-being as an ongoing journey—a process of deepening my connection with Christ, embracing the purpose God has placed within me, and learning to trust the Holy Spirit to guide my steps.
While spiritual wellness is often described as a search for meaning or alignment with a higher purpose, I’ve come to experience it as something much more personal. It has felt like a quiet unfolding. A gradual becoming. A series of moments where I’ve learned who I am, why I’m here, and how to live in closer alignment with what I believe God is calling me to.
Discovering purpose hasn’t arrived in a single moment of clarity. Instead, it has revealed itself over time—through joy and difficulty, through silence and revelation, through prayer, reflection, and grace. Each season has added depth to my understanding of faith, surrender, and divine timing. As I’ve grown, I’ve begun to see how the gifts, passions, and experiences I once questioned have been part of a larger story all along. A calling that keeps growing with me.
One of the most transformative shifts has been learning to embrace who I truly am. I no longer feel the need to conform to expectations that don’t reflect my values. I’ve learned to honor the woman God created me to be—shaped by faith, tested by experience, and renewed through growth. This looks like pausing to reflect, making choices rooted in peace, and walking with more intention and clarity.
My spiritual wellness has also deepened in community. Whether through prayer circles, mentorship, or meaningful conversations, I’ve found strength in shared faith and wisdom. These moments of connection have reminded me that I don’t have to walk this journey alone, and that spiritual growth often happens in relationship with others who are also seeking purpose.
This path has taught me to slow down, to listen more closely, and to say yes to the kind of life that reflects the values God has placed on my heart. I may not always have every answer, but I’ve learned that growing in faith doesn’t require having it all figured out. Just a willing heart, a listening spirit, and the courage to keep going.
“You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”
Jeremiah 29:13 (NIV) -
When I take time to quiet my soul and listen deeply, do I sense God’s presence and purpose flowing through my life? How clearly am I recognizing the direction I am being called to follow, and where might I be invited to step more fully into the potential God has placed within me?
As I reflect on my daily walk, are my actions and choices aligned with the values I hold most dear? Does my life reflect the principles I strive to live by, or are there areas where I need to create more space for alignment, growth, and intentional obedience?
In this season, how am I being called to steward the time I have been given? What meaningful opportunities might I be overlooking in the rush of daily life, and how can I create more intentional rhythms that nourish my spirit and help me walk more closely with God?
When my spirit feels weary or in need of renewal, where do I turn? What brings me back to a place of peace and restoration? Is it reflection, prayer, scripture, community, nature, or a quiet moment of stillness with God?
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Wholeness, to me, is more than just a concept. It is the harmony that begins to take shape when I choose to live in alignment with who I truly am. It is not about perfection or becoming an ideal version of myself. It is about embracing the fullness of who God created me to be while creating spaces, both inward and outward, that support healing, growth, and purpose.
As I’ve continued to shape the vision for Interior Design ID, I’ve come to understand wholeness as an act of integration. Just like an intentionally designed space is built for balance, beauty, and function, I’ve learned that life also requires intention. When I care for my emotional health, physical body, spiritual life, and relationships together—not in isolation—I feel more supported, more grounded, and more whole. Wholeness, for me, means giving every part of myself permission to exist and belong. Nothing has to be hidden to be worthy of care.
This perspective has become the foundation of Interior Design ID. My journey has shown me how healing, community, and intentional design can work together to create real transformation. It has never just been about self-improvement. It has always been about building spaces—both digital and personal—that reflect wellness, accessibility, and purpose in a way that feels true.
Through Interior Design ID, my intention has been to bridge faith, wellness, and vision so that Black women and underrepresented creatives can experience spaces that honor who they are and support where they’re going. Whether nurturing my own life or walking alongside others, I’ve learned that wholeness becomes possible when I lead with clarity, care, and a commitment to living from the inside out.
I no longer believe I need to have it all figured out to begin again. I just need spaces that remind me of what’s possible—spaces that reflect who I am and allow me to grow into who I’m becoming.
My life, like every life, is a work in progress. A space in process. And when nurtured with care and intention, it becomes something life-giving, sustaining, and whole.
“The Lord will guide you always. He will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.”
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Wholeness, to me, is essential because I’ve learned that when one area of life feels disconnected or neglected, everything else feels it too. Life has shown me that we are not meant to compartmentalize our well-being. Our emotional, spiritual, physical, and social selves are like threads in a tapestry—each one contributing to the strength and integrity of the whole. When one thread unravels, the entire design begins to shift. Wholeness, for me, is not about fixing isolated parts. It is about nurturing balance and alignment across every part of who I am.
Through my personal journey, I’ve come to understand that fulfillment doesn’t come from perfection. It comes from embracing the entirety of who I’ve been and who I’m still becoming. The struggles, the breakthroughs, and every in-between moment have shaped me. Some of my greatest growth has come through the winding paths—those uncertain seasons that tested me, stretched me, and brought me closer to healing.
I’ve also learned the quiet strength that comes from sharing my story. Vulnerability has taught me that healing isn’t something we do in isolation. It’s something that grows in the presence of honesty and connection. The more I’ve shared, the more I’ve realized that my experiences hold light—not just for myself, but for others walking their own path.
Our stories are not just memories. They’re tools for reflection, connection, and empowerment. I’ve seen how creating spaces where people feel seen, supported, and affirmed can spark real transformation—both individually and collectively.
That’s part of why I created Interior Design ID. It began with my own journey toward healing and alignment, and it grew into a space rooted in wellness, purpose, and community. A space designed to help Black women and underrepresented creatives reclaim their stories and design lives that reflect who they are—inside and out.
I continue to believe that every journey holds value. Every story carries purpose. And every space we create—whether online, in community, or within ourselves—can reflect the wholeness we’re learning to walk in.
"I pray that you may be whole in every way and that your spirit and soul and body may be kept complete and blameless."
1 Thessalonians 5:23 (ERV)
Wellness Activities
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Theme: Realignment
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Are there areas in your journey that feel disconnected from God’s purpose for your life? What situations, relationships, or habits might He be calling you to release or realign?
With His loving guidance, take a moment to reflect. Write three to five sentences about these areas, trusting that acknowledging them is the first step toward the divine alignment He desires for you.
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How has God placed people in your life who share your heart for His purpose? What common dreams, values, or divine assignments do you recognize within your circle of influence?
Take a moment to reflect. Write three to five sentences about these sacred connections, considering how God may be using these relationships to guide, support, and strengthen you in this season of refocus and realignment.
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As you sit in His presence, allow the Holy Spirit to reveal tangible steps toward realignment. What small, faithful actions is He prompting you to take?
Where is He inviting you to establish new rhythms that honor His guidance in your life? Take a moment to reflect and listen for His direction.
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A Gentle Reminder:
Return to these reflections each week, allowing the Holy Spirit to reveal new insights about living in His rhythm. Slowing down isn’t about doing less—it’s about being fully present with the One who orders your steps.
Journal Prompt:
Consider starting a "Sacred Pause" journal to capture how God speaks to you in these moments of intentional slowing. Pay attention to the subtle ways He transforms your heart as you surrender to His perfect timing.
Embrace Grace Over Perfection:
This practice is an invitation, not a task—a space for grace, not perfection. Let each reflection draw you closer to God's divine rhythm for your life.
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As you sit in God’s presence, take a moment to reflect on your daily rhythms. How does your spirit respond to the idea of slowing down? What might the Lord be whispering to your heart about the pace of your life?
Where in your journey do you feel the most rushed or overwhelmed? Are there areas of your life that seem to be moving faster than God’s intended rhythm?
God offers divine moments of rest throughout our days. What small, sacred pauses could you weave into your routine? Where might He be inviting you to create space for stillness?
🔹 What life-giving activities draw you into His presence and keep you grounded in the present moment? When do you feel most connected to His peace?
Consider the relationships God has placed in your life. How might embracing a slower, more intentional pace deepen these connections and create space for more meaningful fellowship?
Favorite Verses of The Month
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“The LORD makes firm the steps of the one who delights in him; though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with his hand.”
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“Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”
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"Be still and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.”
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“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”Where is He inviting you to establish new rhythms that honor His guidance in your life? Take a moment to reflect and listen for His direction.
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"But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible."
